The Huffington Post is (re-)publishing a series of online articles called “30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days,” designed to give a voice to people with widely varying experiences, including birthparents, adoptees, adoptive parents, foster parents, waiting adoptive parents and others touched by adoption and the adoption process. It turned out to be quite a look at the evolution of adoption over the years, as several of the stories are from people who were adopted or made an adoption plan in the 80s, when the shift to openness in adoption was just beginning.
The Huff Post series is an adaptation of the original annual blog series, “Portraits of an Adoption,” hosted by author Carrie Goldman. She is a regular blogger for The Huffington Post, ChicagoNow, and Psychology Today, and her work has been featured by NPR, CNN Headline News, and a number of sources. Coming from all over the nation, these stories tell tales of laughter, excitement, anticipation, and unforgettable reunions.
Not all of these stories are warm and fuzzy, but all I have read are compelling. Some represent struggles that have sometimes come from traditional closed adoption (we’re planning a series of posts to explain what we understand about the open adoption process, which is what we’ll be pursuing.) Some are from people who’ve restled with the foster care system. We’re reading a lot right now about the other side of the kind of adoption we’re pursuing–the birthmother’s story, so I found this story to be particularly telling of what stereotypes birthmothers can face. This birthmother also spoke at length about what she called “the click,” or when she knew immediately who she would choose to be the adoptive parents. Mostly because we’re new to this process and we’re full of fears and tons of questions, we’re too cautious to expect a fairy tale, but, oh, how *A* and I long for that moment to happen to us…
Check out the series on Huffington Post here.